“Gigi” and Provider-Companion Relationships

Filmed in 1958, “Gigi” stars Leslie Caron as Gigi, a naive and impetuous girl being raised by her grandmother and great aunt Alicia, two women frequently astonished by the girl’s wild behavior. Family friend and ludicrously wealthy magnate Gaston Lachaille (Louis Jourdan), however, finds Gigi charming, and often spoils her with caramels and other presents.

But Aunt Alicia has far more in mind for Gigi than caramels. She is training Gigi to be a courtesan, the perfect female companion…to the wealthiest man Alicia can find. And Gaston just happens to fit the bill. But will Gigi’s “odd” beliefs about love—and Gaston’s uncle’s encouraging him to play the rake—mean an unhappy ending?

A great story overall

Last week I saw that “Gigi” was available through Netflix (possibly the best idea ever, despite their recent faux pas), and added it to my list. It’s got some good music (several songs are well-known even today) and has a happy (if somewhat rushed) ending; but with that said, it’s a weird little musical.

Although the concept of courtesans or companions is an extremely old one, the film makes it seem like something that wasn’t openly discussed, either in 1900 (when the film is set) or 1958 (when it was filmed). Most of the characters are pretty vague about what’s going on, leading to unnecessary confusion at several points: Does Gigi herself know what’s happening? Why is everyone suddenly so upset that Gaston wants to take Gigi out to tea? Why is Gaston embarrassed to talk about the facts of the “arrangement”? These questions are eventually answered, but it took some additional pondering that I don’t think was necessary. Actual courtesans would likely have no qualms discussing the facts of their situation, especially with those they were training, or with whom they were making arrangements.

It eventually occurred to me that “Gigi” was filmed during a period of strict rules and censorship in American media, and being too open in the film would have meant it wouldn’t have been approved for release. Which is still lame, but at least there’s a reason behind the vagueness.

Aside from that gripe, I really enjoyed the film. The actors were great, the singing was good, the sets fabulous, and look at these costumes:

Costume, Gigi

Costume, Gigi

Gigi, Leslie Caron

Leslie Caron, Gigi

Caron, Jourdan, Gigi

I want all of these dresses. And a hot guy in a perfectly-cut tux, too.

“Non-traditional” relationships

One of the main reasons I love musicals (especially the classics) is that they have happy endings: despite the obstacles, love conquers all. But while Gaston and Gigi might have walked off hand-in-hand into the shining sunset, the film did make me consider the provider-companion relationship.

It’s a topic covered in a more serious manner in books like Memoirs of a Geisha and the recently published The Mistress Contract.

How common were these relationships in the past? Are they still common now? What kind of a person enters into such an arrangement? Is it any better than a “love match” relationship and/or marriage? I think this is something I’ll be thinking about in more detail.

Have you seen “Gigi”? What did you think? Is a provider-companion relationship a good or bad idea? I’d love to hear your thoughts.


“Date Night” and the Myth of Happily Ever After

Date NightI love me some Tina Fey, so I’m not sure why it took me so long to see her most recent film. “Date Night” stars Fey and Steve Carell, as well as a handful of other well-known (and great) actors/actresses.

The film is about Claire and Phil Foster, a married couple in their 30s who don’t have a lot of time for romance. When a couple with whom they’ve been friends for several years announces that they’re getting a divorce, Claire and Phil start to wonder if their own relationship is doomed. Are they, like their friends, becoming “too comfortable”? Are they slowly becoming each other’s best roommate?

In a moment of spontaneity, Phil decides to take Claire to the hottest restaurant in the city. But they neglect to make reservations, and so must “steal” a table from the Triplehorns, a couple who didn’t show up for their own reservation. The romantic evening misfires spectacularly when a couple of thugs show up at the restaurant in search of the Triplehorns, who apparently stole something important from someone who wants it back.

Hijinks and other completely ridiculous situations ensue, and it’s just a great movie, plain and simple. But it also got me thinking.

The problem

October 1 will be mine and Best Friend’s five-and-a-half year anniversary. I’m sure I’ll never know everything there is to know about relationships, these years have taught me a great deal about my own relationship, and my feelings about it.

The older I get, the more I see that relationships can be hard to keep fresh. There’s work to do at my job, chores to do at home, bills to pay, groceries to buy, and even books to read and television shows to watch. There’s various weekend and holiday obligations, and sometimes when I stop and take a look at what’s going on around me, all I can see is the rut I’ve been digging.

And so I sympathize with Claire and Phil (and they’ve got kids, so they’re even more pressed for time). You get into a routine, you plough along through life, and it’s easy to feel bored and stressed and like nothing will ever change.

And apparently these days, these feelings of boredom or restlessness or complacency are accompanied by the thought, “I must not love this person anymore,” or “Are we even in love anymore?” or “Is this relationship a failure?” Claire and Phil have these thoughts in “Date Night.”

I blame novels. And Disney.

The Myth of Happily Ever After

I’m not saying that relationships are pointless, or that they all end in disaster; it’s just that sometimes I wonder whether our expectations going into those relationships might be a little unrealistic.

Everyone loves to hear that “they lived happily ever after.” Disney in particular has built a multi-zillion dollar empire on that statement. But what a lot of people don’t seem to want to talk about is what happens after “happily ever after.”

Where was the author when Cinderella and her Prince Charming had their first fight? Why didn’t anyone chronicle any of the tough decisions that Aladdin and Jasmine had to make as rulers of an entire (and might I say dreadfully poor) country? Did Ariel and Eric actually get along for the rest of their lives, despite barely having spoken a word to each other before they were married?

This is why I enjoyed “Date Night” so much — it tries to show some of these things. Claire and Phil may think that their relationship is boring and maybe even a little unhappy, but everything they say and do proves just the opposite. They make each other laugh, they help each other, they rely on each other, and they know how to work together to solve their problems.

And to me, that’s the secret to happiness in relationships: a balance between romance and reality, adventure and routine. Nothing worth having comes easy.

What do you think? Am I being cynical, or do you agree?

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The Word Made Flesh: Literary Tattoos from Bookworms Worldwide

The Word Made Flesh: Literary TattoosTattoos are almost as old as humanity, and humanity’s feelings about them are diverse. In some cultures such markings indicate the passage from childhood to adulthood, or a deviation from what is considered “normal.” They can indicate belonging or isolation.

They are also amazing storytellers. Tattoos are a public display of a person’s inner feelings, where they’ve been, where they’re going, what they believe about themselves and the world. Tattoos are tributes memories, dreams, or fears. They can be sacred or profane, and mean different things to different people. They are thoughts personified. Tattoos can also indicate an obsession — and no one is more obsessed than bookish people.

Some backstory

When Eva Talmadge and Justin Taylor had the idea for The Word Made Flesh in 2009, they had no idea that “literary tattoos” were such a big trend. But they’d been seeing them more and more recently, and not just in their hometown of Brooklyn. Could there be more people out there with permanent tributes to literature on their bodies? They decided to put out a call for submissions of photos of bookish tattoos.

Three months later, they had enough to fill two books; two years later, The Word Made Flesh tumblr is still updated almost daily with new tattoos submitted by bookish people.

A bookworm’s dream

In this slim volume you will find spells from Harry Potter, quotes from Vonnegut, lines from Beckett, Poe’s raven, and tributes to Maurice Sendak, Shel Silverstein, and Alice in Wonderland.

But you’ll also find the stories behind the tattoos, moments of triumph and tragedy. You’ll be tempted to become a member of the “Skin” project, in which author Shelley Jackson is publishing her 1,000 word short story, one word at a time, on 1,000 different people. I guarantee you’ll come up with at least one idea for your own literary tattoo (I know I did).

Each of the people pictured in The Word Made Flesh chose to make a piece of literature, or an author, or a character, a part of their very being. If that’s not dedication, I don’t know what is.

Would you ever get a literary tattoo? Why or why not?

*Just a quick note that I am out of town from 8/14 – 8/20. Posts should be going up automatically, but I’ll be really slow on responding to comments until I get back. Thanks for your patience, and have a great week!*


Quick Housekeeping Notes

MOARFirst off, what do you think of this picture? Creepy or hilarious? I can’t decide.

Secondly, due to a scheduling error on my WordPress’ part, my review for Sunday was posted today. I’ll still be posting on Sunday, but I need to shift some stuff around. Not that this necessarily matters to you guys, but I’m miffed about it and thought I’d share.

Lastly, tomorrow and Sunday I’ll be going to my first big Sacred Harp singing. I’m totally excited; they’re estimating over 100 attendees from four states, and I can’t wait. I imagine that I’ll have absolutely no voice by the end of the weekend, but I can’t wait to spend the next two days singing, listening, and working together with a group of strangers to make what I consider to be some of the most beautiful and meaningful music on earth.

What are you up to this weekend?


Friday Links: Commas, Hoaxes, and Princesses

Friday LinksHappy 4th of July weekend, everybody! I hope you’ve got fun things planned with family and friends, and that you do lots of relaxing.

To help you with that, here are some links to things I found around the Internet this week. Some are ridiculous, others more serious — and all are worth checking out.

First up, 15 fun things to geek up your 4th of July BBQ.

I refuse to accept the news that the Oxford comma is dead.

Kafka on the Shore wins most votes for 1book140′s July book club. Will you be joining the discussions?

Check out the Museum of Hoaxes.

Who’s your favorite historically accurate Disney princess (I’m torn between Ariel and Briar Rose)?

And speaking of princesses, check out the teaser trailer for “Brave,” Pixar’s first film with a female lead. I’m way excited about this: